Chapter Four: Before Marriage
You may not be surprised that many women become very eager to get married and that their eagerness for marriage drives their emotions in most of their interactions with eligible men. You might be surprised that the same is true of many young men.
Many young people struggle for years and years with a very strong desire to get married, while they haven't found the right person yet. Perhaps that won't happen to you, but you shouldn't be surprised if it does. It's hard, and it's painful, but no matter how hard it is, it is worth it to wait for the right person and the right time.
How can you wait to get married to the right person? How can you act casual when your heart is desperate?
First of all, pray. A lot. Don't underestimate the power of pouring your heart out to God for help.
Next, keep busy with pursuing your education and a career, and with volunteer work. The busier you are, the less you'll focus on your desire for companionship with the opposite sex.
While your sex drive is still dormant, do your best to keep it that way, and keep busy. If you've started masturbating, it's okay to keep doing so, as it can periodically reduce your physical desires and make it much easier to cope with your emotional desires.
Once you are engaged, avoid being alone with your fiancée, because that's when the temptation of premarital sex will be strongest. If you've been masturbating, it's a good idea to keep doing so to keep your physical desires from becoming overwhelming when you're together.